Hello! I am excited to kick off Courageous Conversations as promised. Grateful to have found an amazing writing tribe who gave their time and skills to the cause. Here is a guide to what we will be experiencing in the following weeks. Major shout out to Tanaka for serving us this:
Then Moses said to the LORD, “O my Lord, I am not eloquent, neither before nor since You have spoken to Your servant; but I am slow of speech and slow of tongue.Exodus 4:10 NKJV
He was human and yes, he was hesitant. Feeling unsafe and doubting himself. For the reason that he had committed a capital crime at the very same place he was being instructed to visit. he saw it as a nightmare. Moses was being ordered to go and have two courageous conversations that were supposed to change the lives of people.
Firstly, he had to deliver The Lord’s message to the Israelites and their leaders, then negotiate the freedom of the Israelites with their Pharaoh. He had to be stronger than he thought he was.
We all know and should appreciate that the truth is one piece of reality that is shunned and resented in this world of ours. The truth is difficult to work with in this world that has become a hub of lies and deception.
Like every other human being Moses knew the above mentioned fact and immediately went into defensive mode. He wanted the Lord to spare him and send someone else on this courageous mission. Moses doubted if he was going to be able to have fully in engage conversations with these people. He stammered each time he tried to utter words out of his mouth. The truth he was going to carry was hard to prove and too heavy for him to inform the oppressors of God’s people.
Moses knew very well that he was going to feel intense discomfort in performing the task that had been laid in front of him by the Creator. He did not feel safe. On another note, he did not have a guarantee of any closure. Success or trouble? Peace or more turmoil? Nothing really was guaranteed, only comforted by the fact that he was working with the Lord God, the Creator. If goodness was coming, how fast was it going to be? He had to expect and accept non-closure.
Our modern day lives are not by any chance different to the one Moses had as far as having courageous conversations are concerned. We encounter them, we have to go through them and we have to win through them. By definition, courage is a quality of spirit that enables you to face danger or pain without showing fear. A conversation is basically the use of speech for informal exchange of views or ideas or information.
We encounter cases where we need to have courageous conversations when we talk about sensitive issues in society. The sensitive issues vary and cut across issues like race, sexuality, religion and beliefs. It takes courage to have discussions and conversations on these issues with people who have different opinions, views and arguments. We will be prone to feeling like Moses.
Courageous conversations are not easy, but in time of need they’re inevitable. There are four fundamentals that we have to take heed of and embrace so as to improve one’s performance — and gain when undergoing a courageous conversations.
Engagement is a pillar of every courageous conversation. It cannot be measured and neither can it be monitored by parties other than the individual. but it is important to make sure that you are fully engaged in the conversation so as to benefit and also give effective contributions which will help in bringing about a successful conversation.
When having a courageous conversation and desiring to have a fruitful one all the involved parties should be ready and prepared to speak the truth and always stick to it no matter how bitter it might be.
Where raw facts and figures are used thus constituting the truth, there is a tendency of invoking discomfort. Involved parties of the conversation usually feel unsafe and exposed from their comfort and safe zones. This is normal and should be expected whenever a sensitive issue is discussed.
Non-closure as described earlier on should be expected and accepted whenever a courageous conversation is held because people react differently to the truth. When discomfort shows up it manifests differently in people and this might hinder the progress, quality and productivity of the conversation there by living out many unattended concerns and unanswered questions.
Courageous conversations are indeed the conversations that hold this world together in the shape that it has today (which should be somewhat good). They are vital across all spheres of life, be it on social grounds and even in political spheres. They should be held in a way that preserves people’s dignity and safety.
We can keep our families together. We can uphold our friendships. We can stop all the wars between rival nations. We can bring smiles to those shunned and misunderstood by our societies. All this through fruitful courageous conversations.
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