Courageous conversations are quite scarce. The intensity and intricacy of matters that need to be addressed usually makes it seem better to not challenge any pre-existing perceptions.
The version of Bathsheba’s story that I grew up knowing doesn’t have trauma and misfortunes. At least when they mention the ugly parts, it never sounds half as bad. I get that we need positivity and hope, but sometimes it’s done at the cost of essential knowledge.
Bathsheba is often celebrated as Queen and the mother of King Solomon. What we barely talk about are the storms she weathered as King David’s wife. I guess this is because it’s uncommon for women to share their stories. It is thrilling now that more women are changing the trajectory of the world where speaking up is concerned.
There is a culture of abuse that is often overlooked. We see it in Bathsheba’s story. A culture of power abuse, that we seem to have gotten “used to” When we see injustice by those in high ranks of the society — it is hardly questioned. Bathsheba was violated, but because the David was a king — noone questioned it. This sad thing is this keeps happening even in this generation. How many women have been abused and mistreated by men with power authority? Many vulnerable women, like Bathsheba are objectified because they are not in any position to defend themselves. God forbid that we don’t call out such narcissistic behaviour.
Apart from being taken advantage of, Bathsheba’s husband is killed once her perpetrator finds out that he couldn’t cover up his mistake! We don’t even know if she loved David. I am confident that even if she was embarrassed about being pregnant by another man’s child, she didn’t want her husband to be killed because of that.
I can only imagine how broken she was while these events unfolded. The guilt of being summoned into adultery, the death of her beloved and then losing the child she was carrying. A lot of women walk around carrying awfully heavy burdens in their hearts.
So many women are currently experiencing life like Bathsheba’s in one form or another. Some have stopped trying to speak out because the society doesn’t always make it easier. Im sure if Bathsheba was to speak out, she would have been bombarded with questions like — Why were you bathing at night, why were you bathing in the open? Or why you complaining, who doesn’t want to be a king’s wife?
Our world needs more safe spaces. We need to address behaviours and cultures that are corrupted. The people who prey on the vulnerable and abuse their power ought to be called out! When one dares to speak out, we need to come together and amplify their voice.
For those who are in similar situations as Bathsheba — we see you! Rest in knowing that God will restore your honor. Whether now or through generations after you, your name will not be remembered with shame. Give your story and trauma to God, only He can make something good out of what the enemy meant for evil. Also, be kind to yourself. It’s easy to feel guilt and hopelessness when you’re victimised, but sis handle yourself with grace just as how Christ handles you. You are loved.
Lord I hand over my heart to you. Heal, restore and make of my brokenness what You will. Being objectified has numbed me and sometimes I don’t acknowledge my worth. Help me to speak out in times of injustice. Help me see the hope of Your promises for my life. I pray for strength and resilience to raise my voice even in times when judgement may surround me. May you bring destiny helpers who will help walk this journey with me in the name of Jesus. Amen